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I saw a post b4 about a guy that had a midlife crisis at 21. Buddy count ur blessings. Im a single dad. I have my 13yr old 5 days a week. Shes awesome. Ive been racing since i was 14. Im 46 now. Its my passion and my first love. I never qualified for a national even though i came up 2 spots short in 2002 at 30 yrs old and 1 spot short at red bud in the 125(yes im old lol) class. I was racing the 35 40 and open A classes the last cpl yrs. My mom dies outta nowhere last yr and i find out the my dad let her life insurance lapse. So guess what? I had to pay to have her laid out and creamated. I was mad as hell at my dad but i had to do what needed to be done and sell my honda. I cried. It was a 2017 that i saved for being a single dad it was tough. I take care of my daughter and am a die hard moto fan. I cry honestly everytime i watch a race or see a truck going to etown here in nj with a bike on the back. So dude, ur 21. U have time to fix ur stuff. I wish i could fix mine. Im a single dad and i cant afford a bike because my dad lied about pretty much his whole financial situation and i did what i needed to do to take care of moms final service. Respect moto. Respect the community. Respect the talent u have to ride. God bless. Be well. Scotti
PS - sorry about your loss. RIP.
The Shop
That sounds like a nice 250 yz 2000ish would be your best medicine if you don't want to take a lil loan (i.e. on left overs).
Good luck !:
Sounds like your father probably wasn't in the financial position to carry life insurance on your mother (off topic, but if she wasn't the breadwinner, it might have been the right decision financially). Maybe the best way to right his 'wronging' of you is to not be similarly dishonest with yourself about your own financial situation—if you have a 14 year old dependent, and can't bear the cost of a medical issue coming up (like with your mother), you weren't ever in a situation where you should've had a brand new bike to begin with.
Save up. Establish an emergency fund. Then save up a few monthly payments, and get a new bike (or better yet, save a bit longer and buy used).
I am suffering right now because of this, just like the OP. Get your stuff together, seriously, if you are 40 or older, it is time, and it can prevent a lot of suffering/hurt/etc after you are gone. Oh and, tuck 15k away for your burial, well, unless you want to burden someone else with it.
As far as unloading the bike, yea that’s a bummer and can make you realize how well you had it in the past or how well other people currently have it and just don’t realize it. But it’s also just a material object that can be replaced. Regardless of how hard you worked to get something, if you have to let it go to take care of your child or loved one, it’s a no brainer. Material objects don’t mean anything at the end of the day. Having someone taken from you puts it all in perspective real quick.
Hope everything gets sorted and you can ride again soon.
I’m 22 now own my own house and stuff so everything worked out, but it was not easy those couple years after that. Also I realize my situation is a little different being I am younger and have/had more time.
Look at it like this, you aren’t getting any younger, you’re 46, and the way health technology is advancing you will probably live another 50 years. So don’t beat yourself up, you have plenty of time as well to figure it out.
I've seen people sell off all their belongings to fund their drug and alcohol binges. Not a pretty sight...
Pit Row
Like you said, life throws curve balls and we have to deal with it the best we can. and it sounds like you are the kind of stand up guy who can deal with it .
Another bike is in your future and the riding will be very sweet as you have sacrificed for your daughter as you should.
Best of luck to you and your daughter.
I am off to pick up a birthday cake for my one year old grand daughter,it will be a good time,Family and friends are where it's at!
Good things in your future.
When my Dad died we had a $45k medical bill from a snafu, and the funeral was expensive too, but I didn't pay for it. Funeral homes are very aggressive if they don't get paid quickly (as in "we're not showing up)."
Sorry for your loss, hang in there.
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