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7/19/2018 9:32pm
7/19/2018 9:32pm
I’m gonna preface this by saying some of you might call me entitled, whiny, complaining, etc. I am trying to be as humble as possible while still being truthful.
I’m 21 years old live in the USA. I love motocross, it is my obsession and it also basically saved my life. I started riding when I was 14 which pulled me out of deep depression, gave me something to strive for, and introduced me to lifelong friends that have changed my life in ways I had never thought possible. Last year I finally started to feel like I was gaining some serious skill and confidence, and it was the best feeling ever. It renewed my addiction.
Unfortunately, my family has some problems. Both my mom and dads extended families have their own dysfunction which caused my mom and dad to have some emotional problems. My mother is insecure and controlling and has the propensity to be narcissistic and my dad has some emotional baggage.
Now you maybe thinking “I don’t give a fuck about your parents mental health issues kid” and that is understandable but it is relevant to the next part of my story.
Being my parents kid I developed some self esteem issues early in life a which led to major panic attacks and OCD which led to me being ostracized by my “friends” and I allowed myself to become deeply depressed and hopeless, which is where motocross pulled me back.
Now, I am not living with my parents, I am living with an aunt and uncle who saw that I needed to get away from that situation. I moved states and I work st my uncles grocery store. Basically, I am simply lost.
I am intelligent, I am confident enough to say that. I really want to go to college, but my parents and I have had a falling out for various reasons the main one being that I am not succumbing to their pressure to join their fanatical new cult religion! (No im not joking). I don’t know where to go next career wise, I don’t know my next move. I don’t know if I should just save every penny I make so I can move out and go to school and take some time off riding which is already killing me but I guess it would be for the best. I’m broke, and I have fucked my credit and to be completely honest I haven’t felt happiness in almost a year. I’m not blaming anyone. I’ve made a lot of mistakes, I’ve burned myself a lot of times. I’m responsible for this. And that’s why I’m not counting on anyone to help me.
I need to find a way to be independent. I’ve been suffocated for a long time and everything in my being is ready to explode to be independent which is the only way I know I will truly come close to my potential.
I’ll be honest though, I fluctuate between being sad and feeling hopeless and being extremely driven to succeed because I’m still doubting myself and the idea that I could actually be successful. I’m
You might be wondering why the hell I would choose moto related on vitalmx to ask this question. It’s because of a few reasons. First of all there seems to be some people with good life experience, wisdom, and intelligence on this forum and also because I would personally help any of my motocross brothers if I could and I think that sentiment is shared.
You can still call me a snowflake millennial or some bullshit if you want to tho.
I’m 21 years old live in the USA. I love motocross, it is my obsession and it also basically saved my life. I started riding when I was 14 which pulled me out of deep depression, gave me something to strive for, and introduced me to lifelong friends that have changed my life in ways I had never thought possible. Last year I finally started to feel like I was gaining some serious skill and confidence, and it was the best feeling ever. It renewed my addiction.
Unfortunately, my family has some problems. Both my mom and dads extended families have their own dysfunction which caused my mom and dad to have some emotional problems. My mother is insecure and controlling and has the propensity to be narcissistic and my dad has some emotional baggage.
Now you maybe thinking “I don’t give a fuck about your parents mental health issues kid” and that is understandable but it is relevant to the next part of my story.
Being my parents kid I developed some self esteem issues early in life a which led to major panic attacks and OCD which led to me being ostracized by my “friends” and I allowed myself to become deeply depressed and hopeless, which is where motocross pulled me back.
Now, I am not living with my parents, I am living with an aunt and uncle who saw that I needed to get away from that situation. I moved states and I work st my uncles grocery store. Basically, I am simply lost.
I am intelligent, I am confident enough to say that. I really want to go to college, but my parents and I have had a falling out for various reasons the main one being that I am not succumbing to their pressure to join their fanatical new cult religion! (No im not joking). I don’t know where to go next career wise, I don’t know my next move. I don’t know if I should just save every penny I make so I can move out and go to school and take some time off riding which is already killing me but I guess it would be for the best. I’m broke, and I have fucked my credit and to be completely honest I haven’t felt happiness in almost a year. I’m not blaming anyone. I’ve made a lot of mistakes, I’ve burned myself a lot of times. I’m responsible for this. And that’s why I’m not counting on anyone to help me.
I need to find a way to be independent. I’ve been suffocated for a long time and everything in my being is ready to explode to be independent which is the only way I know I will truly come close to my potential.
I’ll be honest though, I fluctuate between being sad and feeling hopeless and being extremely driven to succeed because I’m still doubting myself and the idea that I could actually be successful. I’m
You might be wondering why the hell I would choose moto related on vitalmx to ask this question. It’s because of a few reasons. First of all there seems to be some people with good life experience, wisdom, and intelligence on this forum and also because I would personally help any of my motocross brothers if I could and I think that sentiment is shared.
You can still call me a snowflake millennial or some bullshit if you want to tho.
Work hard. The harder you work (job, school, ect), the less time to dwell on problems.
Take the time to work it out mate, you’re only 21. There’s no rush.
Remember that we do not choose our parents. You don't have to follow in their footstep.
The good news is that you're an adult and can make your own choices. Good or bad you'll learn from them.
Make 5 and 10 year goals and then put your head down and bust some ass. you'll be there before you know it.
Find a cool older dude who has his shit together at the track and ask him to mentor you.
It's really just about hard, constistant work and limiting bad decisions and mistakes and when mistakes are made quick assessment with no guilt, then move forward.
It will work out. Trust me.
The Shop
It's better to just deal the hand your dealt man. I know it sounds shit but that's how it is sadly. It's better to try and improve your situation than dwell on it and get more depressed.
Also ride Moto whenever you can! ✌️✌️
See if you can at least be working on your G.E. at a local community college to keep costs
down and maybe you'll find direction along the way. Might have to work a couple jobs but
get that debt handled ASAP.
Surround yourself with good people. The old saying "if you want to see yourself in five years, look
at the friends you have now" is very true. Stay way, way far away from the party crowd. Eat right, exercise
and stay healthy; it will let you make better and more clear decisions.
Just have to make sure to pay it off at the end of the month.
One other thing, volunteer somewhere, even if it is just at church.
One thing's for sure, don't finance a hobby.
https://findyourgrind.com/
They have videos and information on all alternative careers and help kids find their path. It’s geared toward high schoolers, but in your case it can help lead you. Check it out and let me know if I can help you.
Youre At an interesting time in life, you shouldn’t be sad and or down on yourself. This is the prime time, you need to embrace it. Once you find your direction, you can go full steam ahead.
debt is dumb, CASH is KING
Billionaire mark cubin said, “if you use credit you don’t want to be rich..”
credit cards and financing are the trap for the middle class
It took a while for me to find the right career path. I was 29 when I finished nursing school. I started working on gen eds at community college and got an entry level job at an ER as a nurse assistant. It was crazy hard work. But it led me to where I am now as a nurse. I can work wherever and whenever I want. Please consider it. There were a lot of good looking girls in nursing school too.
Pit Row
After a failed business, my credit got pretty messed up.
After finding another job, on a payday, I walked into my credit union and told them I wanted to do the secured installment loan to rebuild my credit. They actually recommended it.
With 2k in my checking account, they did this:
Transferred the 2k into a secured savings account to secure an installment loan for 2k.
They then loaned me 2k with the secured savings account being the security.
They then deposited the $2k back into my checking account.
I walked in with $2k in my checking account. I walked out with $2k in my checking account.
Each month, on a payday, I made the $176 payment which then made available about $170 from the secured savings account.
I then transferred the $170 back into my checking account, and paid the rest of my bills.
It cost me about $6 or $7 a month to have the loan, without really having anything securing the loan.
Because the loan is very secure, the interest rate was maybe 4%.
After about 4 months, my credit scores jumped 20+ points.
I've since did it again with $4k, and my score continues to rise.
Or military. Just don't believe anything your recruiter promises you.
In response to the OP, learn to find the good in every situation. You may not see it right away but there are always positive things that result from shit situations. Many people focus on blaming other people instead of being grateful for the lessons. Your independence, self awareness, motivation, and a host of other positive traits about you have come directly from your experiences growing up. As Tony Robbins said in his Netflix documentary, "If you are gonna blame them for the bad, you have to blame them for the good too". That completely changed my view on a shitty situation I was in and ever since then, I've adopted the mentality of "You win or you learn, but never lose". Recognize that life is a process and learn to enjoy it. It's not always smooth but that's why it's rewarding.
Want to be happy? Focus on personal growth, find reasons to be grateful, and find something to be in service of that is bigger than yourself. Listen to podcasts, read, learn to like learning. It's a lifelong skill and one that will take you places you could have never imagined.
My suggestion, go into your local fire department and fill out an application to volunteer. Free training, help your community, and build deep relationships with good humans. Plus, you still have the time to find a way to pay the bills or ride. If that isn't for you, research which jobs are in need of people and choose one that you think you'll be passionate about. Trades, machinists, pilots...
Mortgages don’t always show up on your credit score. Mine never did.
And I agree, You're only 21 man. Don't be so hard on yourself. Work hard at your job and leave each day with a sense of accomplishment. Do what you love every day.
My Dad retired as a Line Foreman at Florida Power and Light (AKA NextEra) and they have hired him back because nobody can fill his job. He deals with 20somethings now that either have no idea WTF they are doing and drop out or they take the opportunity seriously and are FUCKING BANKING it!. They can literally choose where they want to work. Nextera is building shit all over the country. They foot the bill for all your travel expenses and you can work as many hours as you can stand. My Dad turns down offers to run projects all over the country almost every month. They are desperate for good lineman. Imagine being 25yrs old, making $150k/yr, no living expenses, with six figures already in the bank. You'd be on your way to a real early retirement if you are smart with your money.
I don't know what kind of money other trades pay but from the looks of the trucks and vans that show up to my house to give me estimates they seem to be doing just fine. Landscaping services, plumbing, HVAC repair, electricians, etc... You obviously won't get rich working for someone. You'd need to go into it with a plan to have your own business but if you're a go getter it's totally possible.
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